Could you just listen?

Could you just listen?

When I ask you to listen to you and me start giving me advice,

You have not done what I asked.

When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me

Why I shouldn’t feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings.

When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problem, you have failed me- strange as that may seem.

Listen! All I ask is that you listen, not talk or do, just hear me.

Advice is cheap. Twenty cents will give you both Dear Abby and Billy Graham in the same paper.

When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself, you contribute to my fear and inadequacy:

but when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel what I feel no matter how irrational, and then I can quit trying to convince you and get down to the business of understanding it.

Irrational feelings make sense when we understand what’s behind them and when that’s clear, the answers are obvious and I don’t need advice.

Perhaps that is why prayer works sometimes for some people

Because God is mute and doesn’t give advice or try to fix things.

God just listens and lets you work it out for yourself.

So please just listen. If you want to talk, wait a minute

For your turn and I’ll listen to you.

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