Category: Own Your Space: Confidence, Competence, Charisma

Is Your Relationship with YOURSELF a Help or a Hindrance?

Isn’t it fascinating that while so much goes right, our minds will still focus on the one thing that doesn’t? If you are anything like me, you chastise yourself endlessly when things don’t go perfectly.

That’s what happened to me recently, when a guest I had booked left the CNN set just just before his second interview. It turned out his phone was off, and he hadn’t seen my texts giving him his updated schedule.

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The Greater Impact of Being Less Self-Conscious

It’s easy to understand why so many of us feel self-conscious at times. We’re concerned about making a good impression, and we want others to see us in a positive light, so we experience a heightened awareness of how we look, what we say, and what our body language is expressing. While it’s important to be mindful of the way you present yourself and the message it sends, being overly self-conscious can actually sabotage your efforts to make a strong impression,

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The Greater Impact of Letting Go of PERFECT

Many of us labor mightily to be perfect — or at least to appear perfect to the outside world. I was recently interviewed on this very topic, and I thought it would be helpful to share my views on the quest for perfection. I would love your thoughts and feedback.

Is there such a thing as perfection?

I think the notion that “perfection” exists is a total myth. We have to learn the concept of “good enough.”

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The Greater Impact of Owning Your Space

bookOne of my most memorable professors at the University of Cape Town’s drama school was the formidable Mavis Taylor. Like a character out of a Dickens novel, Professor Taylor seemed ancient to me at the time, with limp, long, blonde hair and an equally long face which showed little or no sign of emotion, ever.

Mavis spoke sparingly, and with a direct gaze that seemed to look right through you.

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The Greater Impact of Thought Stopping

Yesterday I had the pleasure of running into someone who had recently attended one of my programs. She told me that the concept of thought stopping and thought replacement that I had spoken about was truly life changing. She said she only wished she had known about it earlier.
For me personally, it is also one of the most valuable tools,

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